Goals can be broken down into two categories - those that you set to move towards something and those that you set to move away from something. Often it is just in the envisioning of the goal and then the phrasing.
Example of a moving away from goal:
I need to lose twenty pounds so that I don't have a heart attack.
This may be true but it certainly is a negative motivation. You need to lose the 20 pounds so that you don't suffer. Perhaps your doctor told you that you have to set this goal - it is deal or no deal. Can you think about what the benefits will be for achieving this goal - other than not having a heart attack?
Example of a moving towards goal:
I want to climb that hill and reach the top feeling refreshed, invigorated and ready to take photos of the amazing view. My intention is to do this on the first day of summer.
Using the GROW3 model (Goal, Reality, Options, What, When, Where) you would then explore how you would reach that goal.
G = Goal - stated above
R = Reality - Climbing that mountain at this point would be very physically challenging and I would not reach the top ready to take photos and enjoy the view.
O= Options - I could start practicing by walking every day. Then I could start making short ascents up the path. I could begin taking photos more often in preparation for the experience I have at the top.
W = When, What, Where - I am going to start this weekend by walking around the neighborhood at twilight on Sunday which is my favorite time of day. Next week I am going to do this walk twice and on the third day take my camera and get some photos of spring flowers...
How much more inspiring is the second goal? Plus, using grow allows you to break it down into manageable parts. Losing 20 pounds is daunting. Doing something inspirational is motivating!
Showing posts with label goals grow. Show all posts
Showing posts with label goals grow. Show all posts
March 14, 2009
October 25, 2008
Don't Panic
That's my learning from this LA weekend. I totally pushed myself way beyond stretch goals into panic and despite the extremes I was able to concur all.
Vising Holly, my roommate from Sophomore year of Ithaca College was the first hurdle. We hadn't seen each other in 20 years. The funny thing is that we both still look 19 and even a bit alike with our long blond hair.
The next challenge was camping out as we prepared for our early morning ascent of Mount Baldy. I do not enjoy camping: tents, dirt, bugs, cold, no bathrooms, no light, and weird sounds, I have turned into an urban girl. But the camping also worked out.
Then the greatest challenge, climbing, for it was not hiking but actual steep climbing, Mount Baldy. Holly taught us a fantastic way to stay energized. She calls it the rest step and what you do is every five steps you rest for a moment with all your weight on your back foot. As the killer climb pushed us to our limits the five steps became my mantra. Holly kept insisting I rest but I was in a groove. Plus, if I stopped I worried I would never start again.
The climb down pushed me to my limits. The terrain is all tiny marble rocks on totally steep paths exposed to the elements. The trail was called The Devil's backbone. We climbed along the narrowest ridges with just this crazy marble surface and sometimes trees and bolders to anchor our steps. The views were both amazing and terrifying. One wrong move and you were taking the fast route down.
The final challenge was the chairlift that brought us down the final 4,000 ft. I shared a chair with Holly's friend Nancy who is my hiking hero. she proved she could climb the mountain and her strength inspired me not to be scared on the chair.
I'll post photos when I get to a computer. We're driving back to Holly and Dylan's place for showers, drinks, hot-tubbing and kabbabs...and giving my blisters some TLC.
Vising Holly, my roommate from Sophomore year of Ithaca College was the first hurdle. We hadn't seen each other in 20 years. The funny thing is that we both still look 19 and even a bit alike with our long blond hair.
The next challenge was camping out as we prepared for our early morning ascent of Mount Baldy. I do not enjoy camping: tents, dirt, bugs, cold, no bathrooms, no light, and weird sounds, I have turned into an urban girl. But the camping also worked out.
Then the greatest challenge, climbing, for it was not hiking but actual steep climbing, Mount Baldy. Holly taught us a fantastic way to stay energized. She calls it the rest step and what you do is every five steps you rest for a moment with all your weight on your back foot. As the killer climb pushed us to our limits the five steps became my mantra. Holly kept insisting I rest but I was in a groove. Plus, if I stopped I worried I would never start again.
The climb down pushed me to my limits. The terrain is all tiny marble rocks on totally steep paths exposed to the elements. The trail was called The Devil's backbone. We climbed along the narrowest ridges with just this crazy marble surface and sometimes trees and bolders to anchor our steps. The views were both amazing and terrifying. One wrong move and you were taking the fast route down.
The final challenge was the chairlift that brought us down the final 4,000 ft. I shared a chair with Holly's friend Nancy who is my hiking hero. she proved she could climb the mountain and her strength inspired me not to be scared on the chair.
I'll post photos when I get to a computer. We're driving back to Holly and Dylan's place for showers, drinks, hot-tubbing and kabbabs...and giving my blisters some TLC.
June 21, 2008
GROWing
Well, I'm at the mid-way point at the Americans for the Arts convention in Philly and my big theme is GROW. That's the goal setting tool that I use as a coach and I've been sharing it in my sessions.
G = Goal - setting a clear goal
R = Reality - looking at current reality
O = Options - potential paths to reach the goal considering the current reality
W = Will - when you will take the first step and what it will be
People love the simple tool. I frame its use by saying "imagine we're going to meet up in a year at the next convention and we talk about the goal you are setting today. How will you know that you've reached that goal? What will you see? What will you hear? What will be doing? What made you successful.
For me it is that I will be a consultant, using coaching in my practice and making an excellent living.
G = Goal - setting a clear goal
R = Reality - looking at current reality
O = Options - potential paths to reach the goal considering the current reality
W = Will - when you will take the first step and what it will be
People love the simple tool. I frame its use by saying "imagine we're going to meet up in a year at the next convention and we talk about the goal you are setting today. How will you know that you've reached that goal? What will you see? What will you hear? What will be doing? What made you successful.
For me it is that I will be a consultant, using coaching in my practice and making an excellent living.
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