Since 2009 each December I identify a theme for the coming 12-months. The theme for 2020 is The Year of Speaking Truths. Too often I avoided speaking the truth for fear of the other person's reaction. My accommodating behavior is an effort to avoid conflict.
As a professor and consultant this meant that I was not sharing all that is possible with my students. In my personal life this meant being abused by people who consumed my good nature - by pushing me down. It is my nature to help others. Some people perceive kindness as weakness. So now I will be kind and truthful. I am thriving because I choose peaceful approaches to speaking truths - there is enough hurt in the world.
I have filled this past year with meditation and mindfulness. I have learned to observe the behaviors, emotions and reactions that arise in me and in others during conflict. Finding this pathway is a practice and I have deep gratitude for this continuous learning.
Here are links to each year's theme:
2009 The Year of Amy
2010 The Year of Living My Dreams
2011 The Year of Balance
2012 The Year of Being Present
2013 The Year of Connection
2014 The Year of Clarity, Calm and Confidence
2015 Year of Creative Expression
2016 Year of Integrating Parts
2017 Year of Shining From Within
2018 Year of Calm and Confidence
2019 The Year of Wisdom