Everything in Moderation

Hanging out with Calm and having a car for ten days has helped me recognize that moderation is a perfectly good approach to life. I've been thinking about adopting a dog and also about buying a car. Now that I temporarily have both it is clear that they are wonderful occasionally but not what I'm needing full time. Having the opportunity to be with Calm now and then for a few days fills my needs - and hers as well. A car has allowed me to visit some friends and locations out of touch of public transit but I certainly don't need a car everyday.

Being Partnered

Hanging out with Com/Calm dog and observing her loyalty has helped me understand something about myself. I like being in a relationship. Just like Calm looking after me in the apartment and being tuned into me as we take walks, I like to be the same way with a partner. I previously was seeing this as a weakness that I had to overcome but actually it is a characteristic.

Calm is great one-to-one. She's good in groups too - she was in our game circle during post-Thanksgiving socializing. But she is very loyal to her primary person. After Thanksgiving dinner we went out for a walk and another person was going to hold Calm's leash. Calm kept looking for me to be the one holding her lead. It was amazing loyalty considering we've only been together for a few days. I believe I am the same way. I just have to be careful to whom I commit my loyalty.